Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Of loving...losing and letting go

OF LOVING--

"Love not because you like that person, nor because you care, Love not because you know you cant live without that person. Instead, just LOVE...and forget about WHY.

Love for me is the most important and fulfilling emotion that we will ever feel---the strongest feeling known. It is God's wonderful gift. It works in many different ways that are so wondrous and strange. It can bring the best in us in all aspect of our existence. It helps us to not insist on having our own way all the time.

There is nothing in life that love cannot change. When we feel love, our hearts feel much lighter. It lets us feel the tenderness and warmth and it gives us a sense of "wholeness" that avoids loneliness. It helps us bear hardships without complaint, and it endures suffering with a smile.

Love is like a beautiful song that helps to soothe us when everything is going wrong. It makes everything seem so satisfying. It is a reason to want to keep growing and wanting to make ourselves become better.

Love helps us judge with our hearts and not with our minds. It gives us the strength to forgive others. If we let love enter our hearts, we can see more of the good in others and do not see as many faults. All the things that seemed wrong to us begin to look right again when we look at it through the softness of love's gentle light.

OF LOSING AND LETTING GO--

I believe there is dignity in not giving up on someone you truly love. But I also believe there is more dignity in letting him go so he can experience better love. This I suppose is the best expression of true love, no matter how fit.

I believe there is respect in fighting gallantly to win someone's heart another time. But an even greater respect comes from fighting hard and knowing when to stop. Even though I would give anything to have the past back, that person has touched my life in a way that will make my future so much brighter.

I have to accept that, and hold my head high Knowing I have captured his
heart as well. There is courage in allowing my heart to hurt and grieve, but there is greater courage in knowing it will be scarred. But stronger as time goes on. For whoever caused those scars has made my life better in some way, and it will make me a better person because of what the scars taught me.

Losing the person who meant so much in my life is a humbling experience, Yet it is even more humbling if I allow it to run my life and forsake all I have been blessed with. When I feel like I have lost my world, I just have to raise my head up and remember how many people depend on me. Yes, there is fortitude in holding on for another chance, but i still believe there is an even greater fortitude that comes from extending my hand and heart in friendship, realizing I will still share things with that person no one else ever will. I will always have the looks and jokes and memories and I will not ever discount how special those things are in my and in his heart. True love hurts when it is lost, but I know an even greater love grows inside me through realization that something better is in the world for both of us.

And that there are still things to share with you --- the memories, even though some feelings may have changed. Allow me to take your hand and help you achieve your hopes and dreams.

To YOU...thank you for everything.

11 comments:

  1. someday someone will come along...God provides...He alone knows the best for us...ALWAYS...God's timing is always perfect..you'll seee...just keep on smiling coz that person might just be in front of you...

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  2. uv always been a strong woman in my eyes maam. so this thing you are going thru,it too shall pass! it may take time but u are surrounded by people who love and care for you like i do!

    -sam-

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  5. i love this blog! i can relate to this. i was sooooooooo blessed i was hurt for several times for loving the WRONG MEN... you should rejoice it happened to you coz you cant be with a lost soul forever. you deserve to be happy like anyone else. dont grieve, say "ALLELUIAH!!!" THANK GOD, IT'S OVER! Amen? Amen!!! :D

    beauty Q

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  6. Why so many anonymous?

    Hehehehehehe!

    This is so heartfelt. Thanks for sharing. It's heart crushing but as they say, "Life has to go on." They say this easily because as long as they would be in your shoes, that's the time that they would really feel how painful it is.

    I really hope to learn from what you will be writing here and the next.

    Thanks and keep in touch!

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  7. God has so many plans for us, it will drive us crazy to determine where all these routes lead to. I say, cry, cry then get up. The only person who can hold us down is ourselves. As for the wrong men, they are out there like landmines waiting to explode..wish I can spot them quickly but this isn't the world of Narnia, this is real life..i love you maam.. -Chantal Jabines

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  8. i was one of the first few lucky ones who knew that my best friend was in love. And my, how it excited and made me happy. If there's one person who deserves to be pampered with all the love and attention...it's no one else but Nenette ....a wonderful person who's capable of giving so much unconditional love in return. I silently wished with all my heart that it would have a happy ending.

    I grieved when I learned that that love shared by two dear people i know came to an unexpected end. Beautiful as that love was, it was not meant to be and once again, Nenette proved how emotionally mature and strong she can be.

    Keep loving my friend, cherish the memories......

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  9. ha? i never knew that nette was in love until i read this hehehehe!

    well, they said, it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

    ok ra na nette. being in love is a nice feeling. at least you were there. now u have to move one and fell in love again! ;)

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  10. This might be interesting - http://healmybrokenheart.com/

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  11. Ma'am, i can relate to it...sometimes we just have to set free things in order to pave way for better things...we just have to be surrounded by good people to make us realize what we have and be thankful for it...in time, we, too, shall share our own love story with a happy ending...

    -karren hugo-

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